May 31st, 2007Listen up.



This is my ear., originally uploaded by caseycasey.

Ugh, I’m so annoyed. I have been less than enthralled with our new apartment’s laundry facilities. Somehow my standards are too high - I think that a regular load of laundry should be able to dry sufficiently in 45-50 minutes for a dollar. Our dryers seem to think differently. Bastards.

I’ve been doing laundry pretty much non-stop since I’ve gotten home - which makes me sound a lot more virtuous and homemaker-y than I really am. Matthew and I are headed out to Virginia this weekend and I wanted to do a load of diaper laundry and a load of my own laundry before I left. I do two washes for diaper laundry (cold rinse, hot wash), and apparently have to always do two (and in the case of my clothes, three, but I balked at the third because I was tired of spending money) cycles of dry to get the diapers dry. Right now half of the load of my clothes laundry is hanging on hangers out on our deck. The other half is still slightly damp but it’s just t-shirts and I don’t really care too much if they are damp.

Wow, I just spent entirely too much time talking about LAUNDRY. Gah.

May 29th, 2007Flailing Baby



Hang on, we’re in for a ride, originally uploaded by caseycasey.

This has been the ride of my life, so far - being Matthew’s mom. I still think it’s weird that I’m someone’s mom. I like being his, so it works out just fine.

May 23rd, 2007What boys need

One of my favorite parenting sites is Ask Moxie. Her simple, sage advice helped me get through crazy ass weeks of sleep deprivation after I went back to work.

She recently wrote a review of a book (The Dangerous Book For Boys) and today, as a follow-up, a list of items that boys should know by the time they become men, and it’s just left a sour taste in my mouth.

1. How to sort and wash laundry properly
2. Writing thank-you notes
3. Tying a necktime
4. Talking your way out of a fistfight
5. Winning a fistfight
6. Ending a date politely without promising to call someone you have no intention of calling
7. Roasting a chicken, making risotto, cooking asparagus, and baking brownies
8. First Aid
9. Driving a Manual Transmission Car
10. The Rules of Soccer
11. Telling a Story Effectively

Are you kidding me? Most of these things I think all people should do before they become adults, or at least by the time they move out of the house. And some of these things I question their usefulness - like tying a necktie. I know plenty of successful people who have survived life without knowing how to tie the neatest ties.

“Roasting a chicken, making risotto, cooking asparagus, and baking brownies” - this appeals to the tastebuds of mine, but you know, there are plenty of perfectly mature men who don’t know how to make those. Those men instead might know how to make dumplings, knead dough for homemade noodles, fry tortillas to make tostadas, and steam eggs to make a breakfast custard.

I don’t profess to be an expert on boys - all I am a pseudo-expert is on my own son. I want so much for him - I want him to grow into a kind, compassionate human being, who chooses his words carefully and with intent, who loves without hesitation and fear, who knows how to function operationally as an adult (cook, clean, etc.), who knows when he needs to learn more and then just does it, and so much more.

If he doesn’t learn, as one of her readers says, “how to choose a diamond,” and isn’t considered an adult because of it, well, than so be it.

May 18th, 2007Bath time



Bath time, originally uploaded by caseycasey.

He took the frog away just as the camera fired.

May 14th, 200705.14.07 - Ten Months

Wearing Dinner

Dear Matthew:

You wouldn’t know it from this picture, but just two days ago, you were sicker than anything and were being admitted to the pediatrics ward of our hospital via the emergency room. The final diagnosis: RSV. Last Monday night, when I put you to bed, I noticed you started sounding congested. Your congestion worsened, and so did the nose running and eyes watering, etc. At first, we figured it could be anything - a reaction to the dairy I restarted in my diet (side note, you have had no reactions! There is a package of queso fresco in our refrigerator that I actually petted yesterday - and it’s gone now!), the stress from traveling, and maybe even seasonal allergies. But on Thursday, Baba took your temperature and it was high, so we went to see the doctor, and the one on duty that night tried a nebulizer treatment with you and it didn’t work at all, so we went to the emergency room for an x-ray of your chest and some more nebulizer treatment.

We are so glad we went when we did. You were in a sorry shape there - the nebulizer is supposed to help for a few hours at a time, and your initial treatment was only helping for a few minutes at a time. We were admitted to the pediatric ward - the same one where you spent a few days getting rid of the bilirubin in your system when you were 4 days old - and that’s where we stayed until Saturday morning. You got nebulizer treatments (which you couldn’t stand), your nose sucked dry (which you totally HATED), and crushed tablets of prednisone, which you totally despised. But you are getting better, and that’s what counts.

You could have packed better here, Ma.Not too long after you turned nine months, we prepared to move into our new home. We now live in East Rogers Park, and we love our new apartment, which is a nice two bedroom place so that Mama and Baba finally have their own bedroom again! Some friends of Mama’s and Baba’s came to help us move at the end of the month, and that was a lot of fun - tiring, but fun.

Very suspectUnfortunately, a couple of days after we moved in, we flew back east to visit with family. Your great-uncle Morris died on the first of May. This made Mama very sad, but your presence cheered everyone up. You got to meet your uncle Justin for the first time, and at JoJo Morris’ wake, you helped everyone smile through their tears of grief. Very powerful cheeks and smiles you have, little boy.

This past weekend, your Baba graduated from grad school! Grandma and Grandpa Burnett came out, on their way to Hawaii, to visit. You slept your way throughout most of the ceremony, and only got a little stir-crazy near the end.

Matthew in a cap.

Now, it’s just me, your Baba and your dog. You’re now wearing 18 month sized tops, and I just bought you 24-month sized bottoms. You’re still a big little boy! You’ve learned how to clap this month, and today Baba reports that you held your bottle and fed yourself for the first time - I think it’s the practicing with sippie cups you did yesterday that did the trick. You’re eating dairy now - little bits, both via breastmilk and via direct ingestion - you loved eating Grandpa’s pasta that had the yummy tomato-creamy sauce. You learned how to wave to people in greeting. You pull yourself up on everything, including Mama and Baba. You started sleeping through the night consistently (and then we had to go and mess everything up by traveling and getting you sick!).

It is amazing to see how you’ve grown in just these ten short months. Pretty soon you will be walking and talking and honestly, there’s a small part of me that wants to rewind back to that day in July of 2006 when you were first placed on my chest. A larger part of me relishes in your growth and development, and the smiles and arm flailings I get when you and Baba meet me at the train station after I’ve come home from work, and you are so happy you don’t know what to do with yourself.

I love learning more about you and getting to know you and seeing the wonderful little boy you’re becoming.

Love,
Mama

(All pictures from 9 months are here)

May 9th, 2007Eleven years

Danville, 11 years ago today.

Again, snagged from Stacie:

10th Month Developmental Milestones

90% of babies can…
stand holding on to someone or something - yes
pull up to a standing position from sitting - yes, although very wobbly.
object if you try to take a toy away - oh my god yes
say “mama” or “dada” indiscriminately - yes
play peekaboo - loves this game
exchange back and forth gestures - yes

75% of babies can…
get into sitting position from stomach - yes
play patty-cake or wave bye-bye - just learned how to wave bye-bye last week!
pick up tiny object with thumb and finger - yes
walk holding on to furniture - no, but it’s not for lack of trying. We haven’t really let him yet since we moved and need to babyproof the place better.
understand “no” - yes, although he doesn’t listen to us. Teenager.

50% of babies can…
stand alone momentarily - no
point to something to get needs met - sometimes
say “mama” or “dada” discriminately - not yet, but I haven’t really paid all that much attention.

25% of babies can…
indicate wants in ways other than crying - yes
play ball (roll ball to you) - haven’t tried that yet - I should do so!
drink from a cup - sort of, with a lot of assistance
pick up a tiny object neatly - yes
stand alone well - thank god, not yet
use immature jargoning - if by this you mean babbles, yes
say one word other than “mama” or “dada” - no
respond to a one-step command with gestures - not really
walk well - no

May 6th, 2007May 1, 2007

On May 1, my Jojo died. We were with him, waiting for his last breath, and it came. We cried.

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My twin uncles at my wedding. The one on the right is my older uncle - the one who died.

At the wedding again - dancing with his younger daughter, Emily:

And then again with his wife, his high school sweetheart:

Accompanying my mom as she addressed me and the rest of the people at the wedding:

At my cousin’s wedding (his daughter):
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I found a bunch of pictures from when he was younger that I have to scan in. Later.

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I have much more to write at a later time. Things just seem impossibly void now that he isn’t here.


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